I'll admit that lately I've been in a funk.
Trust me, I love my newlywed life, and I don't regret one single thing about it. I'm so incredibly happy with my life in the love aspect.
The unfortunate part is that I can't seem to love MYSELF. Ever since January I've really not been in a good place for my self confidence. I haven't really felt pretty, and actually just always feel really frumpy. I think another part of it is that I've always had trouble with my weight. I've never felt like I was the perfect size..ever. I just beat myself up about it non stop. Lately I've gained a little bit of weight, and it's probably because I got comfortable with Randy and wasn't such a stickler for my weight. I would have to say I was LOVING life, not worried about the stupid calories and working out. Well now it's definitely bit me in the butt and I can't seem to get out of my weight funk. Sure, I could be better at eating and I could work out more..but my life is crazy right now. I'm just happy right now. I am SO happy, I just wish I wasn't beating myself up non stop about my weight.
I guess I'm just writing this because I need to vent, and I'm also looking for advice.
So ladies, how have you found your self confidence and how have you changed your outlook in life to make you happy with how you are?
I can't wait to read your comments.
xoxox,
Melissa
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4 comments:
This is so sad to me. You are a beautiful girl!! I wish you didn't feel like this!
In the same breath, I think EVERY girl out there goes through this! I know I do. It's so frustrating, hey? I do think it gets a little better as you get older and you start to be more comfortable with yourself and care less what other people think. But I'd be lying if I said I still didn't worry about my weight a lot.
I know one thing that seems to help me is to try to get busy thinking about OTHER things instead of my weight. Easier said than done. But I find if I really dive into my church calling, or start training for a race, or start some big projects, I'm sometimes able to occupy my mind with other things and worry less about my weight. And the bonus is that when I'm not worrying about it as much, I seem to weigh about 5-10 pounds less than when I AM worrying about it. Funny how that works.
It also helps to think about all the amazing things your body is able to do and try to really be grateful for that. You are a healthy girl. Read NieNie or think about people in wheelchairs or with other physical handicaps. You are so lucky to have your healthy body! Try to appreciate it and be thankful for it.
Like I say, this is all easier said than done. It's definitely a process, and I go through different phases all the time. Hang in there Melissa, you're beautiful inside and out!
This is a tough one. All women of every shape and size struggle with their weight. Even the girls who I look at and wish I was as tiny as them.....they struggle too.
What's worked for me in the past and hopefully in the future (starting again today!) is eating the right kinds of foods and the right portions. You don't have to go on some strange/expensive/low calorie diet. It's really all about portion control and good choices and it's about being able to have something yummy every now and then too.
There is no better day than today to start. I also like to begin my healthy eating habits right around a big event. Like Halloween when there is so much candy to resist, or New Years eve ect.. That way, if I can succeed during times where there are tons of treats, I can also succeed during the regular day to day activities. Good luck.
I'm in your same boat Melissa! I think getting married does it to you! There is a group of girls down here that we are all doing PErsonal Progress again and it's interesting to talk to each of them (all who have been married within the past 2 years) and all of us fell the weight funk.
It's so sad to me that I can't even believe when Andy says that he loves my body because I can't see what he see's. It's interesting to see how Satan can really twist our minds (but I guess he can twist our minds if we let him... We have power to crush him out of our lives.) (Sorry- thinking outloud!)
I don't think I have much advice because I struggle with it daily (hourly really)- but I guess something I realized as I wrote this is that I have the power to choose how I see myself. Let's both try turning our negative thoughts to positive thoughts the moment we think it- like saying, "I look fat" change it to, "My hair looks nice today". I've done this once before in my life and it changed my life!
I guess I just need to do it again!
love you and know that I think the world of you!
Elise
Thank you so much ladies. Every single one of your comments made me cry. I love you all so much, and I'm so blessed to have amazing friends like you. And Elise- I've been trying your whole find something good about your self, and it's made me feel so much better! Love you all xoxox.
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